I’ve been in the workforce for some time
now and believe me when I tell you that we all have a different way of working
and it’s likely that you’ve had strained relationships with your
colleagues. However this doesn’t mean that we are bad
employees, it’s simply a fact that we couldn’t get along with every single
person in the previous companies we use to work for. We all have to rely on
each other to finish reports, close a deal, and there will certainly be cross
wires and disagreements.
When arguments start, many try to
disengage- to avoid the person in the office or limit contact to them. That’s
all right if your colleague plays a marginal role to your daily routines at
work. But if it happens to be your manager or someone in your finance
department, ignoring them is a losing strategy. Check out our 4 steps
to help you mend a professional relationship that’s gone off track.
Recognize that making an effort is worthwhile
Resolving tension will actually aid your own
productivity at work. A core view of efficiency is closing open loops.
Eliminating unresolved matters that nag at your mind. Just as you can’t rest
easy until you respond to that scheduling request, you’ll have a much harder
time focusing professionally if you’re constantly in the midst of conflict with
Recognize your own faults
It’s easy to diminish your coworker. But you’re almost certainly contributing
to the dynamic in some way, as well. Sometimes we tend to focus so much on the
negative things we start behaving in ways that could make matters worse. If you
think your colleague is too quiet, you may be filling up the airtime in meetings,
which encourages them to become even quieter. To get anywhere, you have to
understand your role in the situation.
Time to press reset
If you independently decide you’re going to rescue your relationship with your
colleague, you’re prone to be disappointed. It has to come from both
sides. The minute they fail to respond to a positive approach or yet again
demonstrate an irritating behavior, you may end up with the sense that your
effort was wasted. Instead, try to make them a partner in your effort. You may
want to find a “reason” for the conversation such as the start of a new project
which gives you the opportunity to mention the subject.
Finally, you need to change the dynamic
Even the best of intentions - including an agreement with your colleague to
turn over a new page, can quickly fall apart if you go back to your old ways.
In the outcome of a conflict, you should find a tool or method to record what
you guys disagreed on, we suggest writing down the transcript. So you can begin
to see patterns where you were pushing and he was pulling. Sooner or later,
it’s likely that you’ll be able to grasp the big picture of how you’re communicating
to each other and areas where you can try something different.
Work relationships can't move forward when
they stay stuck in the past. Don't dwell on what happened before or mention the
problem again when attempting to repair a professional relationship. Be patient
because it takes time. Staying focused on the future and understanding the
dynamics of the relationship and making changes to what’s not working. This can
lead to positive results in the workplace.
If you are in the market for a new job, let
us start a professional relationship today!